Sander de Vries
Sunday 19 june 2016
10:45 - 11:45h at Mississippi
Categories: Attachment, Children and adolescents, Families
Parallel session: Family track
Aggressive and self-destructive behavior among adolescents brings parents to despair. The same goes for school refusal, compulsive gaming, and other problem behaviors. From a systems-therapy point of view the behavior of the adolescent is maintained by a vicious circle in which the frustration and anger of the parents plays an important role. Parents get stuck in a pattern of alternately giving in to avoid escalation and responding to aggression with aggression. The approach of nonviolent resistance (NVR) aims to break this pattern and restore parental authority with a firm but strictly nonviolent approach.
This approach, in which parents are coached to stop following orders, respond to inappropriate behavior with a so-called ‘sit-in’ (a silent strike in the child's bedroom) and actively restore the relationship by means of reconciliation gestures, requires a lot of parental self-control. Their feelings of powerlessness, fear, guilt and anger increases parents’ tendency to react in ways that are inconsistent with the recommended approach, even if it is explained in detail and prepared thoroughly.
This workshop presents a roadmap for using EMDR in preparing parents to apply the principles of NVR. After a brief introduction of NVR the presenter illustrates how EMDR can be used to desensitize current triggers that lead to anger and despair, how RDIs can help to increase feelings of competence and how future templates increase the success-rate of NVR-interventions.
Participants are informed about the theoretical backgrounds and clinical application of nonviolent resistance as a treatment model for antisocial and self-destructive adolescent behavior.
Participants are able to include the contribution of parental anger and frustration to the persistence of adolescent behavioral problems in their case-formulations.
Participants are able to apply EMDR techniques in preparing parents for nonviolent resistance.